The definition of normal is simply what the majority of society thinks, believes, or behaves. The fact is that everyone has issues. No matter how successful or well put together we or others perceive us to be, it is normal for us all to have issues.
What does it mean to have issues? It doesn’t mean we are broken. It really just means that there are things holding us back from the full joy, health, and happiness we are entitled to. We need to identify those things that are holding us back. It is critical to understand the place we are coming from. Often, we won’t even know these issues exist until we ask someone to help us evaluate our mindset. Once we know what the blocks are we need to remove them. This will require professional help. Most of us are not equipped to deal with these obstacles. That is one of the reasons we can’t identify them on our own. Stressful situations and other traumatic events may have been locked away in our systems and once we identify them they can be very difficult to deal with if we don’t have proper help to cope.
To have the freedom to be who we are, to explore who we are becoming, and to have the room to experience the joy, health, and happiness we are entitled to means to have identified our issues and gone through the process of understanding them and removing them from our lives.
In order to have the things we need to see to the needs others we need to first be true to ourselves. Once we achieve that, we can be true to others. As much as we would like to be able to figure it all out for ourselves the truth is, we can’t think our way through a feeling problem, we have to feel our way through it. That is why getting help to complete our experiences is so crucial. Not only can they help us navigate the emotions of the completion but they can also provide a safe place for us to express those emotions. Once we are able to do that we will be able to move forward to accomplishing our goals.
By practicing the Cascade of Care model in our lives we will be able to have the balance we need to move forward.
There are three main principles of the Cascade that we need to keep in mind. They are:
- By feeding ourselves we feed everything that is important to us.
- Don’t try to go it alone, get help. Why try to swim the ocean when you can have a boat? Why go one on one with the LA Lakers when you can recruit a team to help? Recruit the right people to help you be more successful with less effort.
- Live by the example you want others to copy (especially your children).