Being happy isn’t always easy. We can’t lose our happiness trying to find happiness though. So, how can we be happy and successful without sacrificing our joy? It could be as simple as being a copy cat. Have you ever taken some time to watch the happy people around you? I’m sure if you did you would notice these things about them:
- They have autonomy – They treat life like it is a series of choices. The attitudes, surroundings,and perspectives they hold are all choices they have made, and they choose to be positive with those choices.
- Mastery – The joy is in the journey. Remember that “Happy Bank” we talked about filling a few blog posts ago? Keep making deposits so that the bad times don’t seem so bad.
- Celebrate the successes of others – When we change our mindset from jealousy to appreciation we become more positive in our perspectives. When we have a more positive outlook we tend to attract more success and happiness. When we take the time to celebrate with others we make a deeper relational connection and are far more fulfilled and satisfied with life. Seek out an individual or a group of people that you can meet with weekly to share success stories and celebrate with. The more you celebrate the more there is to celebrate!
- Balance what you take in with what you give out – Everyone needs a sense of purpose. We all know we have a purpose but sometimes it seems so hard to discern. Try volunteering, nurturing your spiritual side, or finding opportunities for random acts of kindness. It won’t take long for you to start feeling fulfilled through your giving. Just remember, don’t give too much. There has to be a balance between what goes out and what comes in.
I know it seems hard to believe that copying happy people might be all you need to be happy too. After all, where is the expensive therapy? The homework and self help exercises? Sometimes we don’t need those things. If we can all agree that being around negative people usually affects our perspective and dulls our mindset then why is it hard to believe that simply being around positive people can improve our quality of life. Remember, this is the Tweed Free Revolution!